Getting your shit together is totally IN these days.
But where do you start when you’re trying to ‘develop’ and ‘better’ yourself? Self-help books are an excellent way to get started but it’s best to have a sounding board when you’re working on yourself.
So this brings me to, who’s your best bet for your personal growth? A mentor, therapist or a life coach?
Deciding who you need
Having a mentor can have a good lasting impact on your career, and also be life-changing.
Mentoring is a long-term relationship, where the mentor focuses on supporting their mentee with growth and development. Whilst the mentor is a source of wisdom, they are not there to instruct, or tell you how to do things.
A mentor is basically your personal cheerleader.
Mentors are beneficial because they challenge you to think differently and open your eyes to see different perspectives. You should consider finding a mentor if things are feeling “off” at work, as they can help you to realise your full potential.
So how do you go about finding a mentor?
Finding a mentor isn’t so clear-cut, compared to finding a therapist or life coach. Most mentorships tend to form organically.
In order to find a great mentor, don’t reach out to strangers, because you won’t find them, according to Kathy Caprino, Contributor to Forbes.com. It’s best to find mentors amongst the people you already know. They could be people in your field, role, or industry.
Also, be someone that is enjoyable to mentor, nobody wants to spend time mentoring a ‘know-it-all’. Reflect on whether you’re open, flexible, resilient and respectful.
There are so many different types of therapy, where to start? The most popular types of therapies are psychodynamic or cognitive-behavioral. Therapists, unlike coaches or mentors, therapists focus on personal core beliefs that may be holding you back.
Whilst therapists can’t offer you business advice, or any advice for that matter, they’re great at helping you when you’re:
- Overwhelmed and frustrating
- Having difficulty sleeping, relaxing, focusing or socialising
- Experiencing psychosomatic symptoms
- Struggling with low self-confidence
- Heading towards depression or anxiety
I know that therapists are not often in one’s budget, however many therapists offer sliding scale rates.
So how do you go about finding a Therapist?
You can find a counselor or psychotherapist on UKCP.org or counselling-directory.org.uk
Gestalt therapy is also another form of therapy that has been praised by Jack Canfield, Author of the Success Principles and Chicken Soup for the soul.
“There are three types approaches I typically recommend – Gestalt therapy, psychosynthesis, and neurolinguistic programming (commonly known as NLP)” – Jack Canfield.
Coaches are basically supportive cheerleaders. Coaches support you with job searches, train you on new skill sets, empower you to achieve your goals with practical tricks and tips and help you navigate difficult situations in the office.
So how do you go about finding a Coach
In terms of finding a coach, you need to first think about whose encouraged you, inspired you, and has helped you get to the next level in your life or career, or both. Figuring out what qualities they all had in common, and that’s your starting point. Then create a short list, and search for coaches who display those traits.
It’s also worth thinking about who can help you with your specific situation, as many coaches have worked with people in a variety of industries, they, therefore, know how to advise people with specialized skill sets. So you may want to consider working with someone in your industry or someone specializes in a specific situation such as drastic career changes.